VincentHill
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posted July 02, 2007 12:07 PM
OT, SOmeone close Killed in Hit & Run accident
I do not care that much about Young Children and all of my close freinds know this! My two best friends that I grew up with in Toledo Ohio and then went to chruch here with in Washington and now live in Columbus never carred about what problems I had! They would hand her over to me and say make sure she is fed at the Fellowship hall at church when she was only 6 or 7 years old and walk off laughing at me! Then when she was about 9 or 10 she would sing to me "Bad Boy Bad Boy, what are you going to do when they come for you" (The Cops song) and just laugh at me! No one on earth had the nerve to even attempt this but she knew she had me and she is now Dead at the age of 21 years Old! She really had the soft spot in my heart targeted and there was nothing I could do about it. It is not often I say these words, but "This Hurts!"
http://www.wjla.com/news/stories/0607/434715.html
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Megabyte
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posted July 02, 2007 12:43 PM
Vincent, I'm so sorry for your loss. I taught school for 15 years, and for some reason, it's the difficult kids that you remember most. Hopefully, whether you realize it or not, maybe you had a positive influence on her that may have made an eternal difference.
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H2 to ZX12
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posted July 02, 2007 12:48 PM
that sucks vince, sorry to hear that. Her life was just beginning, now it's over.
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VincentHill
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posted July 02, 2007 01:07 PM
Thanks, they always say that the Good die Young and the Lord takes them when it is Best for "THEM"! SO most likely I will be here for a VERY LONG TIME and need to get used to this! The wierd thing is I thought she still lived in Columbus so I was real comfortable in my Ignorance and not worried a bit so just try to keep in touch with all of your friends when ever you are close enough to see them, SEE THEM because it could be the last time ever!
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ricksgsxr
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posted July 02, 2007 01:19 PM
 Edited By: ricksgsxr on 2 Jul 2007 14:27
Vincent:
First I'm sorry to hear the tragic news. I iwll try to keep my story short in hopes you realize you made an impact on her life.
My father left my mother and my older sister (by 2 years) when I was three. My mother would not divorce him , back in the early 60's divorce is not like it is today it was more a taboo back than
My mother was an alcoholic, on welfare but came from a good family. My grandparents were well off and succesfull in a couple different business.
My mother was raped by my true grandfather I never knew when she was 13. My Grandmother divorced him shortly after remarried the only Grandfather I knew.
My mother never recovered and was on booze at early age and at 36 years old (I was 15) I woke up and found her dead which was from liver failure due too her drinking
My Grandparents sent money to a neigbor we called Aunt Betty who intially lived next door, later we moved too the ghetto section of Glendale, Ca . aunt Betty always made sure we were fed, bought school clothes, sent us too church (I do not attend now) and made sure the Christmas gifts arrived.
My mothers drinking partner and lover was also an alcholic and his son was my best freind. He was always in trouble and everyone felt sorry for him because he had no mother andhis father was a drunk.
When he was 16 he stole a car and went on a police chase throgh Angeles Crest hwy (North of Los Angeles) I was born in LA ended up losing control and went over a ravine -lived barely and ended up in jail after that my mother had passed and I moved to Seattle where my Grandparents became my legal guardians
My sister dropped out of school at 15, ran away and moved here to Florida. When she found out her mother died came to Seattle where my grandmother made her get her GED, she passed and went into the Navy she is now a President of a Nationwide Credit Union.
Me? I climbed the corporate ladder a bit with a Computer Company -Ingram Micro than one on to ADP wher I have been for 12 year. Not way up there but happy in my mid level manager role with a decent income, bonus and stock
The moral of this story is 'Aunt Betty" who had no children, guided both my sister and myself, made sure we were fed and neither of us ever went hungry.
We both knew where we came from and chose not to go the route society would expected us too be with no father and a drunk welfare mother.
None of us can control what the Lord does, but I think you should feel good you made an impact on a childs life.
My sister was reading Ann Landers one day back in 1993 and was an article on the Salvation Army where they have a little known service finding lost family and accept 3000 letters a year. We wrote ours, they accepted and found my Father and sent him our letetr and contact numbers. He called, we talked and learned he had re-married and I had two half brothers after making the agreement too tell them about his other son and daughter than call me back, if he did not want too fine, but never call me again. He did and we were re-united he has sinced passed away. All those years he used his Brothers ssn and never renewed his license in fear my Mother would find him.
Not sure how the Salvation Army found him and my sister coming up through the ranks in the finacial world which included skip tracing . I have ever since been indebted and involved in charity work for over 20 years now.
I chair our Commuinity Outreach Commitee at ADP which supports many charities Salvation Army, United Way, Hubbard House, Builders Care etc all which impact different age groups from children to our senior citizens.
I'm not sure if I would be as committed too charity or be as thankfull for my life as it is now if it was not for Aunt Betty
Keep surporting our youth! you can and will make an impact
Rick
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VincentHill
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posted July 02, 2007 02:19 PM
"WOW"!! I have been through nothing and know no one that has been throough anything either Compared to you! When reading what you wrote, the thing I kept seeing is somehow we always want to got the Opposite way the parents went! My Mother loved gardening and beautiful lawns> I hated Yard work and told her that when I grew up I would have a Black topped yard.
This was about 1950 When she came to my house in 1988 when I was getting married she looked in my back yard and said" Did I do this to you"?? I said "WHAT" She .looked at the concrete yard and said you were only 6 or 7 and you said that you would not have nay grass in your yard! I had actually forgotten all about it until she reminded me! My front yard does have grass and bushes (Ask Freek) but if I ever move to Fla if the yard is green, it will be green sand or Rocks not Grass 
Very serious story and yes, I am glad I did what I did in spite of my feelings becasue she and everyone else enjoyed watching her pull my strings! Thanks!!
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frEEk
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posted July 02, 2007 05:28 PM
aw man vince, i'm real sorry to hear that.
and rick, i just want to say thank Aunt Betty and you for choosing to do good.
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VincentHill
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posted July 02, 2007 05:46 PM
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aw man vince, i'm real sorry to hear that.
and rick, i just want to say thank Aunt Betty and you for choosing to do good.
Rick brings the lights on about people feeling sorry about anything that happened in life! I am still surprised about my feelings because I did not know how much she meant to me (But I guess my friends did!)
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posted July 02, 2007 05:50 PM
Edited By: H2 to ZX12 on 2 Jul 2007 19:52
awesome story rick. very similar to mine. Parents separated in the mid 60's, mom was an alcoholic (so was dad). my brother is mentally challenged which was very misunderstood at that time and a source of embarassment for my parents (so they thought). my mother didn't die but she passed out every day and would not cook, buy groceries, do laundry ect.... She had 2 nervous breakdowns and was committed to St. Elizabeths twice, which is a mental asylum in DC belonging to the US Govt. Hinkly, the guy who shot Reagan is still doing time there.
My brother was sent away to boarding schools the remainder of my childhood which left our family split 3 ways and I spent the last 12 of it with my dysfunctional mother. I started drinking was I was 8, smoking dope at 11 and was pretty much a daily drinker and pot smoker from 15 on. The amazing thing was that even though I was bored with school work, I always had self employment year round. mowing lawns, raking leaves, cleaning gutters, pulling weeds, shoveling snow, delivering news papers.....to keep up with my drinking and drugging. I'm proud to say that I never had to borrow or steal to get high. All the while though I felt I was lazy and looked down on myself for not going to college. I truly wasted the opportunity with above average ability and it still bugs me occasionally now, but my point is that I was a hard worker and didn't really realize it until much later.
Besides the motorcycle courier job you've heard me talk about, most of my life I've been in construction. First hi-rise work in DC, with a bit of work on the subway system, and some bridge work on the I-66 freeway extension thru northern va. I was a carpenter foreman for the last 4 years. Then this opportunity came in the form of my father in law as an invitation to create a wood deck building company with the building material sales org that he worked for.
I quickly learned that it was a very lucrative business, and after 2 years was ready to start my own company.
One thing stood in the way, my alcoholism and drug addiction. Although I had found an industry that was very forgiving for drunks and drug addicts, I knew that the IRS, banks and material vendors would not be so kind. By this time my mother had about 14 years of sobriety thru her attendance of AA. In the back of my mind I knew that I would probably walk thru those doors some day but I was going to give it one hell of a run first, and I did. My first attempt at sobriety don't go too well. I attended meetings regularly and would resume drinking after a couple months of being dry. This went on for 2 years and my first marriage came to an end. Gone was my drinking partner and designated driver. And a few weeks later one of my best friends died of a drug OD. That was my wake up call, I never drank or drugged again. It's 18 years later now, I'm still building decks, still clean and sober, happily married, traveling the world, doing whatever I please. My only son, that I raised is in his 3rd year of college and I'm living vicariously thru him now LOL. Didn't mean to take up so much of your time, this is just another story to show that it doesn't matter what hand you're delt, you can still be a winner.
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VincentHill
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posted July 02, 2007 06:01 PM
Redelk is about the only person that you guys and really talk to! He has been through it and back again! WHO Said Motorcycles are bad!
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MadMike
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posted July 02, 2007 08:27 PM
Vince man I am so sorry for your loss! life is very fragile and we just never know... my thoughts and prayers go out to all the family and friends...
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VincentHill
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posted July 03, 2007 05:11 AM
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Vince man I am so sorry for your loss! life is very fragile and we just never know... my thoughts and prayers go out to all the family and friends...
Thanks MM, When you are down, you always go to your "Family" for support and that is what I consider this place.
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