Incredible Hulk
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posted August 15, 2002 02:20 PM
Bart sorry about the loss and decisions you have to make, but be strong my feelings is with you and your family.BELIEVE GOD HEAL ALL WOUNDS.much love.
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WrenisPinkle
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posted August 15, 2002 02:24 PM
Bart,
I am sorry to hear this news. I truely believe that you did the correct thing even though it may not have been the easy thing. If there is anything at all......don't hesitate.
Ted
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Phil
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posted August 15, 2002 09:41 PM
Very sorry to hear of your loss Bart. I know what you are going thru, my condolences.
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zx11_12
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posted August 16, 2002 06:06 AM
Bart,
I have no words.....I'm so sorry.
But, as has been pointed out by others, you didn't make the decision, your dad did. And by carrying it out, you showed your love and respect for the man.
My prayers are with you,
Steve
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fish_antlers
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posted August 16, 2002 06:53 AM
sorry to hear your news Bart.... you are lucky that your Dad made this descision for you. You are lucky to have a father as wonderful as he is to have not burdened you with such a choice, but to have made it for you. He really did play his role as father right through to the end.
You should be proud.
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Otis
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posted August 16, 2002 07:17 AM
Bart, you certainly have done the right thing, as hard as it may have been. I told Michelle last night about your father and of course she sends you her best. As you know she is a nurse and has seen many many many circumstances like this and she said that so many times the remaining family members can't find it in their heart to let their loved one go, even though they know it's the best thing. She said it's absolutely terrible to watch, terrible to watch the one suffering (not that your father was suffering) with lung cancer, or other ailments and wanting to be let go but the family, out of selfishness, makes them endure continuing suffering so they can feel better. That is just wrong. You're father, while I have never met him, I'm sure was a great man as he raised you to have decency and respect (we won't comment on your taste for tennis shoes here ok?). He made the call and you were man enough to carry it all. I'm sure he is smiling in heaven now, proud of his boy.
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ZHooligan
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posted August 16, 2002 07:38 AM
 Edited By: ZHooligan on 16 Aug 2002 08:50
As a dad and a son, I can say you were and are lucky to have had such a special relationship with a great father. It is clear that he taught you well, he was a good role model and prepared you for your life. And in the end you honored him by being the man he helped to shape and made the call. I am sorry for your loss, but happy for what you were obviously given by such a good father.
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Ballisticzx12r
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posted August 16, 2002 11:15 AM
Thank you everyone. I am still amazed that things like this need to happen. I am not and will not try to explain why, I just don't know. The following I hold to be the truth...
You better enjoy what you have and who you have now, because tomorrow is so far away..
I once again thank you all very much for the kind thoughts.
Bart
32 year old Orphan
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GOZR
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posted August 16, 2002 09:00 PM
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slug
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posted August 18, 2002 08:45 AM
it sounds like you and your dad had a really good life together, may the happy memories always keep you going strong.
and that tag line on your last post hits home....
"32 year old orphan"
you definately have a way with words man.
makes me want to call mine and say hi....time IS short.
 
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jonwright
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posted August 19, 2002 10:57 AM
I saw both my grandfather and a very close friend of mine suffer lengthy and painful deaths.
The pain from seeing them suffer was, for me, greater than letting them go. It was tough visiting every day as I was reminded of thier pain.
If you can at all, be thankful that your father made a difficult decision for you and your family.
Don't be afraid to be sad and be in the darkness. I had to admit I was completely broken before I could be fixed...
Best...
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FinalVelocity
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posted August 20, 2002 12:20 PM
Sorry to hear about your tremendous loss Bart. My heartfelt sympathies - parents are irreplaceable.
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Ballisticzx12r
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posted August 20, 2002 02:54 PM
Thank you all for your kind thoughts.
It's funny in a way, I'm a 32 year old Orphan.
Bart
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hondo
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posted August 20, 2002 08:00 PM
Bart, you did the right thing. My parents both have named me as their POA in health and financial matters and have living wills. As a cancer survivor and nurse I've seen much suffering from patients and family members. Even so, if and/or when the time comes to make a life ending decision it will be difficult.
I share your grief.
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Ballisticzx12r
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posted August 21, 2002 06:35 AM
Thank you for your Kind thoughts.
Bart
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